As a student, you may find yourself concerned with the behavior, emotional concerns or demeanor of a friend.  Many students talk with a counselor at the Counseling & Student Development Center because they want some ideas about how to be helpful to another person. If a consultation meeting with a counselor would be helpful to you, feel free to call for an appointment (570.577.1604).

In the meantime, remember:

  • Listening to and putting yourself in the shoes of the friend about whom you are concerned can help him or her feel understood and cared about.
  • If you want to explain to a friend why you are concerned, be as specific as you can. Being direct is also advisable; attempting to deceive or trick someone into getting help is unwise.
  • Change often happens in stages.  When you encourage a friend to go to counseling, you plant a seed for change that may not take hold right away.  Keep in mind that when you suggest counseling to a friend they may not be ready to take in this suggestion, and might even be offended or disregard it. If this happens, it can be helpful to remind your friend that you're there for them if they need help. Sometimes people aren't ready to accept help right away but will remember that you’re available for support when they’re ready.
  • If you feel that getting someone to help is essential, you may consult with a counselor at the Counseling & Student Development Center.